Here’s the thing, the work is never done.
You never end self improvement.
This is an ongoing lifestyle until you die.
So, the concept of enough-ness can’t exist.
You have to be enough where you’re at, in a constant state of practicing our idea of perfection.
No living person has ever achieved enough-ness.
I was flying on an airplane alone as a teenager once. I was seated next to a gentleman in his 60s or 70s. He was writing in his journal.
I read over his shoulder to see he wrote: “When will I ever feel accepted?”
“I thought to myself, that’s terrifying if it doesn’t end by that age. Do I want to stay alive to find out?”
In life the only person who can hand you your diploma and graduate you, is you.
This is why I am not afraid to let people in, to try new things, to look a fool sometimes.
If it doesn’t work out, it doesn’t affect my sense of being good enough for it.
Being alive is messy, no one can do it perfectly.
No one is free of their shadows, we can only make efforts not to be a complete and total shitbag.
Shadows don’t even make your value drop, it’s how you handle them anyway.
This is why I have been using a Shadow Work Oracle Deck alongside my tarot cards in readings lately.
If we don’t address the toxicity underlying our fears and motives, our auras get crusty.
In magick you can’t have dominion over demons unless you speak their true name.
The things that make you feel unlovable or not good enough don’t need to be rejected.
They need to be integrated.
I am at the age where if I find myself rejected, my feelings do get hurt. I process that just like always. However, my deeply ingrained sense of self hasn’t been shaken.
I have become friends with the things I would rather hide about my nature. I don’t cover them up anymore.
I accept myself, I am my people first and always.
I set the tone for how I am treated based on my relationship with my own shadows.
I always feel accepted.
My relationships aren’t acceptance based, I want people in my life for the experience of knowing them, and their flaws.
If you are always chasing validation. Whether it’s a teacher giving you a grade. Or a friend or adult giving you the thumbs up. You’re tired of being a people pleaser with an empty cup. Its time for a change. It would be a good time to schedule a Liminal Space Session combined with a Tarot Reading for your Real Spiritual Advice.
Your shadows might be your greatest teachers.
The worst thing you can do is stop.
I am sending you so much love!
Katie